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The Breakup Diet: Heartache the Healthier Way

Going through a breakup is one of the most emotionally draining things life can throw at you. As if things couldn’t be more difficult, you have to worry about food. Yes, WORRY about it. First, there are the somewhat “more expected” over-eaters. Chocolates and cookies and fried everything. Sure, it’s not the healthiest, but it passes. Then there are people like me, who tend to unintentionally stop eating almost all together. It’s not that I don’t WANT to eat… it’s that I CAN’T eat. Sometimes food looks appetizing, and sometimes the idea of eating sounds good, but mostly food looks and smells gross and the idea of putting anything in my twisting stomach sounds painful.

If you absolutely cannot get anything solid down, start with something like SlimFast or a protein shake mix–anything with vitamins and protein to help keep your body functioning. It’s definitely strange to buy a diet drink when you’re already not eating, but you gotta do what you gotta do! Forget about judgments (which were my biggest hurdle buying them). Something is better than nothing.

Take baby steps. Literally. I actually turned to baby food once. I found it disgusting, personally. It’s possible I just chose the wrong flavor? Applesauce and pudding are similar, and meant for adults. But baby food doesn’t have as much sugar, if that’s something you’re worried about.

This part is no surprise–eat SOFT foods. Non-acidic fruits are best, such as bananas. I’m a huge fan of any cereal soaked in milk until it’s all soggy. Honey Nut Cheerios are my favorite, next to Frosted Flakes and Rice Krispies. (They just get soggier faster.) Again, cereals that are too sugary –while at least getting something solid in your stomach–sort of defeats the purpose of trying to stay healthy. Breads and rice are good also. They may sit too heavy as first, but the bland-ness is key.

At first, you probably don’t want to do much of anything, especially spend energy actually preparing food. But once you feel adventurous, it’s nice to get your mind off things by making smoothies. Very small victory, I know. My favorite recipe regardless of circumstances is: 1 banana, spinach, 1 clementine, 5 (ish) strawberries, orange juice, and cranapple juice. Sometimes I add blueberries, blackberries, or grapes. But this is the tastiest way to get some healthy vitamin and minerals and fill you up.

Supplements:

Take a daily multivitamin to keep up with what you’re losing from not eating correctly. Especially if you take one daily anyhow, you’ll need to keep your immune system going!

I recently discovered there is a multivitamin called “Daily Energy” from CVS (maybe others as well) that are amazing! Feeling sluggish happens to everyone–but especially an emotionally-drained and malnourished female. Honestly, I didn’t expect it to do much but from the first mid-day dose I could notice a difference. Life savers!!

I also recently discovered melatonin. I have been having sleep issues the last few weeks regardless, and I wish I knew about this sooner. I knocks me right out when I need it.

Lastly, drink tea! I’m a huge fan of Yogi teas, especially the Kava Stress Relief. There are others such as Relaxed Mind, Bedtime, Calming, Positive Energy, St. John’s Wort Blues Away, Stomach Ease, etc that can help.

So while you’re wallowing in your emotions–which is perfectly acceptable–remember that you still need to function! Your health is the most important thing you have, so you need to keep it. As hard as it is to not care and let your twisting stomach win, at least choose some way to get vitamins into your body until you can eat normally again.

Living life on purpose

This started as a Twitter post, then a Facebook post, and just got entirely too long. 

 

My manager showed the letter of recommendation he wrote for me and I almost cried. It amazes me how highly some people think of me. It gives me even more motivation to get my butt in gear to do awesome things for myself and for others. No more putting shit off to the side. No more saying, “maybe I’ll do it tomorrow” and never doing it. The time is now. I’m already over-booked 7 days of the week but what is life if not crazy? 

My biggest challenge will be getting back in touch with everyone I care about. I live in the same city as so many of my friends and I only see many of them on celebrations, if that. I get so tied up in focusing on myself that I don’t even think to get together with people so close to me. Not to say that I don’t want to. I honestly just sometimes forget I can easily just send a simple text and see some of them. It’s so silly it’s ridiculous. Getting to my Milwaukee friends is a whole different frontier that saddens and stresses me out just thinking about it. The time will come. I made a promise about a July trip, so it will happen! 

As a side note: I had a short talk with a cab driver (of sorts) who’s really into horoscopes. He discovered I’m a Taurus and immediately went on about how Taurus’s need to be more confident and outspoken because we are really sweet, caring, passionate people. He then found out I’m 24 and he went on to tell me things are going to start really changing in my life and I need to embrace it and take life by the reins and not let my “Taurus ways” hold me back. He told me this is my “God period.” Not in the sense that I need to believe in God or start going to church, but in the way that my life is going to start being enlightened in so many ways and it’s my choice to follow it or not. Things happen and I need to act on it, or it’s going to pass me up. I told him I could tell things were headed that way and I totally believe him and cannot wait. 

I’ve been in a constant state of growing for a couple years now, and I finally feel like things are starting to take off. It’s growth-spurt time. I have awesome foundations laid with awesome people, I’ve shown and proven myself to the people I need to, and I’ve been able to point out my own flaws in a way that I’m honestly working towards a solution for. I guess the point of this blog was to find myself, and I lost sight of it for almost 2 months now, for one reason or another. Hopefully, I’ll be posting more often! I took a week long vacation to paradise with my family. Mexico for 6 days, all-inclusive, no phones/computers, and beautiful weather every single day gave me PLENTY of time to think to myself. Now  is when I need to start putting all of those thoughts into action. 

Here goes nothing..