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The 5 Movies You Should Actually Watch After a Breakup

I recently did a search on movies to watch after/during a breakup. They all had the same set of movies and honestly, I disagree with most of them. They’re all movies about relationships failing. That’s not what I want to watch. Relationships are the last thing I want to think about. The point of watching a movie right now is to forget about things and enjoy sitting alone (even though alone is the last thing I want to be.) Funny movies sound like a good option, but sometimes imagining having to sit there and be amused sounds, well, not so great. (I also have this odd fear of watching a funny movie I love when I’m down and never being able to love it again.) So here’s MY list of movies to watch and why.

1. Shrink. (2009).

Why: This has been one of my favorite movies for a few years now. It’s my go-to  “Help, I feel helpless” movie. It shows stories about multiple people (which of course intertwine at some point or another) and their struggles. A couple of the characters are dealing with death, and the reason why I can love it is because breakups sort of feel like your significant other died. It does indeed make me cry, but not in the “I will never be happy again” kind of way.

1. Shrink

2. Ordinary People. (1980).

Why:  This is similar to Shrink in that it makes me cry and the story is based around a death. It portrays real human emotion in multiple ways, and somehow listening to Mary Tyler Moore have a breakdown about something I have never felt makes me feel like I relieved some pent-up emotion I can’t relate to.

2. Ordinary People

3. American Psycho. (2000.)

Why: At least your ex isn’t a psychopath that cut you up. And it’s just a good movie (in the dark sort of way).  While watching the sex scenes might make you feel oddly lonely at first, they make you want to keep yourself together before jumping towards the first guy that wants to take you to dinner, or the first that says says something creepy to you at a bar, or the guy that you think is just being funny but is actually telling the truth.

3. American Psycho

4. Side Effects. (2013).

Why: It follows a woman going through depression, and taking antidepressants. The plot twist, though! The plot twist! It will leave you feeling weird and confused and probably awful–but at least YOU haven’t reached that level. Am I right?! Suspenseful enough to keep you distracted for 100 minutes, disturbing enough to keep you from thinking about anything else the rest of the night.

4. Side Effects

5.  Girl, Interrupted. (1999).

Why: There’s nothing I love more when I’m feeling down than to watch other people doing worse than I am. I can’t be the only one. Plus, we’re talking about Angelina Jolie and Winona Ryder.

5. Girl Interrupted

Now go distract yourself! Be sad if you need to be sad, just don’t go as insane as these beautifully disturbed people 🙂

The Breakup Diet: Heartache the Healthier Way

Going through a breakup is one of the most emotionally draining things life can throw at you. As if things couldn’t be more difficult, you have to worry about food. Yes, WORRY about it. First, there are the somewhat “more expected” over-eaters. Chocolates and cookies and fried everything. Sure, it’s not the healthiest, but it passes. Then there are people like me, who tend to unintentionally stop eating almost all together. It’s not that I don’t WANT to eat… it’s that I CAN’T eat. Sometimes food looks appetizing, and sometimes the idea of eating sounds good, but mostly food looks and smells gross and the idea of putting anything in my twisting stomach sounds painful.

If you absolutely cannot get anything solid down, start with something like SlimFast or a protein shake mix–anything with vitamins and protein to help keep your body functioning. It’s definitely strange to buy a diet drink when you’re already not eating, but you gotta do what you gotta do! Forget about judgments (which were my biggest hurdle buying them). Something is better than nothing.

Take baby steps. Literally. I actually turned to baby food once. I found it disgusting, personally. It’s possible I just chose the wrong flavor? Applesauce and pudding are similar, and meant for adults. But baby food doesn’t have as much sugar, if that’s something you’re worried about.

This part is no surprise–eat SOFT foods. Non-acidic fruits are best, such as bananas. I’m a huge fan of any cereal soaked in milk until it’s all soggy. Honey Nut Cheerios are my favorite, next to Frosted Flakes and Rice Krispies. (They just get soggier faster.) Again, cereals that are too sugary –while at least getting something solid in your stomach–sort of defeats the purpose of trying to stay healthy. Breads and rice are good also. They may sit too heavy as first, but the bland-ness is key.

At first, you probably don’t want to do much of anything, especially spend energy actually preparing food. But once you feel adventurous, it’s nice to get your mind off things by making smoothies. Very small victory, I know. My favorite recipe regardless of circumstances is: 1 banana, spinach, 1 clementine, 5 (ish) strawberries, orange juice, and cranapple juice. Sometimes I add blueberries, blackberries, or grapes. But this is the tastiest way to get some healthy vitamin and minerals and fill you up.

Supplements:

Take a daily multivitamin to keep up with what you’re losing from not eating correctly. Especially if you take one daily anyhow, you’ll need to keep your immune system going!

I recently discovered there is a multivitamin called “Daily Energy” from CVS (maybe others as well) that are amazing! Feeling sluggish happens to everyone–but especially an emotionally-drained and malnourished female. Honestly, I didn’t expect it to do much but from the first mid-day dose I could notice a difference. Life savers!!

I also recently discovered melatonin. I have been having sleep issues the last few weeks regardless, and I wish I knew about this sooner. I knocks me right out when I need it.

Lastly, drink tea! I’m a huge fan of Yogi teas, especially the Kava Stress Relief. There are others such as Relaxed Mind, Bedtime, Calming, Positive Energy, St. John’s Wort Blues Away, Stomach Ease, etc that can help.

So while you’re wallowing in your emotions–which is perfectly acceptable–remember that you still need to function! Your health is the most important thing you have, so you need to keep it. As hard as it is to not care and let your twisting stomach win, at least choose some way to get vitamins into your body until you can eat normally again.